it has been seven + years since he died. seven years without someone to talk to.
he listened to me.
listened. it's an important word.
he listened to what i had to say. he asked questions. he made sure he understood what i had to say, what i was feeling, the moods i was in. he let me talk.
and i listened to him. i heard what he said and what he didn't say.
we were in each others heads as well as in each others hearts.
i miss that. i miss it so much. it's been so long since i have had him here to talk to. to feel understood. to feel heard.
so much has changed. so many things have happened. i wish i could talk to him. i need him so badly.
i am so very tired. tired in that i could use a week of sleep, but also just life tired.
the world is turning terrible. i do not like people at all anymore.
there are people that i wish would just stop talking. they are psychopaths. they know they are hurting people and they do not care. it is their belief that they and their agenda matter and everyone else can go away. but that's what the definition of a psychopath is.
i wish i could shut the world out. live on a secluded beach and let the world go to Hell around me. but i'll just be there alone, somehow. someway.
i work a lot. 55 + hours a week. i am physically exhausted.
i have a lot of chores to do at home that i am so tired yet need to do.
i have so many thoughts i wish to express but i do not trust anyone. i need him.
physical pain is daily. both arms with tennis elbow. my right foot has a hairline fracture. my left hand has a hairline fracture as well. my right foot has Achilles tendinitis. it's been 2 years for the tennis elbow. 3 months for the foot fracture. 10 months for the Achilles tendinitis. and only a week for the fracture in my hand.
i just hurt every day. and i wish he were here.
i feel like i might explode. i cry at home a lot. just break down and sob.
7 years without someone on my side. 7 years without someone to look for me, wait for me, talk to me, listen to me, sleep next to me.
7 years without my Dragon.
i've hit a wall. and i'm depresssed.
how did i get here?
my husband, my beautiful Dragon, died suddenly at 12:03 AM on 9 February 2009. there was a cold, lovely full moon and 3 feet of snow on the ground. i "slept" for the following 10 months and "woke" to the physical and emotional pain and torments of deep grief. i "woke" to find i had moved the day of his funeral and that i am lost. i am looking for me while i figure out the abstract, unanswerable questions that follow behind any death. my art has evolved. his death changed that as well because i am forever changed and will forever bear the mark of losing the only man i can ever love.
there is alive and there is dead and there is a place in between. i am here wholly in my heart for my children, but i feel empty inside at this time. i miss him. i have not gotten very far in my grief journey. i make no apologies for this.
this is my place, my blog, where i write to tell the universe that i am still here.