tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post1778966172128728381..comments2023-10-01T10:27:21.384-04:00Comments on the art of grief: life goes on but what am i?abandonedsoulshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-83596462097989393232013-09-29T21:07:53.190-04:002013-09-29T21:07:53.190-04:00My husband died suddenly in June of 2009.l clicked...My husband died suddenly in June of 2009.l clicked on you blog today on Michaelmas. I was trying to help my 17 year old find an ending for his high school college essay--Life goes on. I didn't succeed but finding your blog was a blessing. ♥ Katybethhttp://oddlovescompany.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-7945362037921544062011-04-06T16:00:41.072-04:002011-04-06T16:00:41.072-04:00i'm reading your new blogs now, and i can tota...i'm reading your new blogs now, and i can totally understand that feeling -- what am i?<br />the weirdest thing, after my boyfriend died, people started telling me that life goes on, my 25th birthday came along two weeks after he died. people insisted on reminding me that i was young and had lots to look forward to -- how can i explain to them how that sounds like a curse, rather than hope? if i could give the years away, i would, just to go find him again. <br /><br />i've been reading through your blogs, and at least i don't feel so nutty here all by myself. nobody really gets it. people have break-ups yeah, people lose parents, yeah -- losses are losses, but they aren't quite the same. i've never felt as "at home" with anyone as i did with him. we had everything in common and this brilliant, gleaming vision of our future together; something mundane and beautiful and full of kids and happiness. and it all fell apart one day in the summer, while the sun smiled on everyone but us. <br /><br />it's all i can really think about. 2 years is coming up this June, and people seem confused about why im not "better;" i don't understand their version of "better." i don't know if there is a "better" after something like this. <br /><br />anyway, Bunny; i am going to bookmark your blog, because you have so many things to say that are so heartfelt and i can relate to you so well. you are a very beautiful spirit, and i'm glad to have run across you. <br /><br />*hugs*<br />♥Pamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-69638683165326000282011-04-05T22:31:57.063-04:002011-04-05T22:31:57.063-04:00Dearest Sister - what a lovely story of being a co...Dearest Sister - what a lovely story of being a companion to the to the other widow - we know, we just know. <br /><br />I was so stunned when I saw the title of this post as I know I made a post with the same (or very close) to this early in my 6 year blog - <br /><br />You are so precious to me and your heart is pure - I hold you close each day and hope you remember that I am always here 4 am or 4 pm - or anytime at all. <br /><br />Love and Hugs across the miles between. S.Suzannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00324352371488938537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-11112793747340413362011-04-05T14:35:19.197-04:002011-04-05T14:35:19.197-04:00thank you all.thank you all.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-56284772476414786342011-04-05T03:00:04.818-04:002011-04-05T03:00:04.818-04:00This post was beautiful. I loved your telling of ...This post was beautiful. I loved your telling of the older widow. That story resounds so clearly to me. No surprise, huh. No matter what walk of life we come from, what age, or how long we had them in our lives, being left behind is a common struggle. I so wish that it was like the non widowed think, that life gets better once we have done our obligatory grieving. How stupid, right? It doesn't, well, at least for us it doesn't seem to. I must say these past couple of days we have had some sun again, and it is definitely lifting my spirits. I hope you have a ray of sunlight in your life as well.<br /><br />I too am please to hear the your daughter's relationship in in repair. Sounds like you really stepped up as the mom, and made a difference. <br /><br />Much love.<br /><br />DanDanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02218009891182171803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-61667068192106707602011-04-04T17:06:36.443-04:002011-04-04T17:06:36.443-04:00Yes, only other widows understand. How kind you w...Yes, only other widows understand. How kind you were to explain widowhood to the daughter, and how lovely that the mother came to get a bunny. Take carethelmazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819557846762852247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-19908725802350788432011-04-04T04:32:41.696-04:002011-04-04T04:32:41.696-04:00I've cried so hard reading your post - cried f...I've cried so hard reading your post - cried for you and for me. I so wish something good for you - something or someone to be there for you instead of you having to be there for others. Not a replacement - not at all. Just someone or something to bring you happiness, even though I know it will never amount to the real happiness you knew with your Dragon. I know it because I've lost all that too. Hugs. Thoughts. Best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-36630768507983622202011-04-04T02:28:16.035-04:002011-04-04T02:28:16.035-04:00Another beautiful post. You have a wonderful way w...Another beautiful post. You have a wonderful way with words - the kindness of your heart shimmers within these. Your encounter with the widow will provide her with much peace. Especilly loved the story of the girl who cried flowers.Widow in Ozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00327399839947716215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-1190424942107160662011-04-03T23:38:36.384-04:002011-04-03T23:38:36.384-04:00What a beautiful thing you did for that widow--it ...What a beautiful thing you did for that widow--it brings tears to my eyes.<br /><br />Yes--you must--I have told you before and you must get back to the beach.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-18152733030632228922011-04-03T22:13:54.966-04:002011-04-03T22:13:54.966-04:00I hear you way out here. It is a process, that is...I hear you way out here. It is a process, that is unique for all of us. But it always feels so uncomfortable and wrong, like a coat that doesn't fit. We've been thrust into a life that we don't want yet we are forced to live. Such a strange existence with no way out. <br /><br />I'm so glad that your daughter and her husband are doing better. And manager training! Awesome!! I'm glad you are being valued for the amazing employee that I know you are!<br /><br />Time alone on a warm beach to wrap yourself in your memories and his love...that sounds wonderful. <br /><br />Praying you find some peaceful rest this week.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.com