tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post5185157552686710579..comments2023-10-01T10:27:21.384-04:00Comments on the art of grief: inventory and a question to everyoneabandonedsoulshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-44222542368201062702009-09-22T09:29:11.635-04:002009-09-22T09:29:11.635-04:00twinmom, thank you for your insights. your though...twinmom, thank you for your insights. your thoughts are most welcome.<br /><br />Boo, yes, i am very blessed with both my children though the connotation of that word is that they are young. they are both adults, 25 and 23, and right now, when i am so defeated, it is still hard to accept the role reversal. <br /><br />SSSF, i am glad you had those dreams. if some thought i expressed here was the catalyst, then i am humbly grateful. i am glad they were good dreams and ones that you can hold in your heart. peace always.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-12455794390704306552009-09-21T23:15:06.180-04:002009-09-21T23:15:06.180-04:00Just wanted to say a special thank you for this po...Just wanted to say a special thank you for this post. I often write my own posts just before bed, yet somehow after reading this one I was blessed with my fourth and fifth dreams of my wife in the last two and a half years (one each Friday and Saturday night). They were both very different, but equally special to me, and I can't help but think that something in your post sparked the possibility of these dreams. Thank you.Split-Second Single Fatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192370092337202063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-58311415012524292432009-09-20T19:37:52.377-04:002009-09-20T19:37:52.377-04:00I cried when I read what your son put on his email...I cried when I read what your son put on his email to you. Role reversal is always hard to adjust to ... but right now you are grieving for your Dragon ... let him look after you. What a beautiful person you have raised and taught so well xxx<br /><br />The list? OMG, I can start it, but it truly IS endless.<br /><br />And dreams, I have had a few and even when asleep I seem to be aware that he is gone ... perhaps it's our brain's way of protecting our sanity? I love seeing him even if it's only in that twilight zone HUGSBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-36855099358378400292009-09-18T22:44:48.253-04:002009-09-18T22:44:48.253-04:00While I cannot speak as a widow, I do believe that...While I cannot speak as a widow, I do believe that dreams are an outlet for our deepest fears and desires. Many many years ago, my little brother became very ill and nearly died from hepatits (he miraculously recovered and has gone on to a live a happy life). There was a time during which we did not know whether he would live one night my parents were called to the hospital where he was being cared for and told to say goodbye. I was 11 years old or so, and deeply affected. I had dream after dream of things such as rescuing him just before he would have been struck by a car, knowing 2 boys were missing and one was found dead in a lake while the other lived and then found out later in the dream that my brother was the survivor, etc. They were so vivid that I still remember them some 35 years later. My point in telling you this is that perhaps your dreams are the result of your mind finding some peace, albeit temporarily. Your mind is trying to deal with the unbearable pain by giving you back your Dragon, even if just for a moment. Perhaps it is what is helping keep you sane right now, rather than the opposite.twinmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17989732539840178341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-25952270885743537132009-09-18T21:58:04.991-04:002009-09-18T21:58:04.991-04:00Suddenwidow, i will hold you and your sons in my h...Suddenwidow, i will hold you and your sons in my heart on Sunday. and i'll try to find solace in my erratic dreams and try to carry it over in my waking.<br /><br />SSSF, i'll ready your writing on this. i have to wonder if the dream have come only because of the stress of the wedding and the situation that cropped up so immediately after. but i will sleep and not fight the dreams that do come, and as i said, i'll try to relax into the dreams of my Dragon and understand from whence it comes. and possibly will go.<br /><br />thank you both. your words mean a great deal. your "presence" is a comfort.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-81255006001557523082009-09-18T20:29:48.486-04:002009-09-18T20:29:48.486-04:00I'll start by echoing what I said following yo...I'll start by echoing what I said following your last post. You have raised a good man, one you can take both credit for and pride in. <br /><br />As for the dreams, even two and a half years out, I have had very few (which I wrote about here: http://widowedsinglefather.blogspot.com/2009/04/on-comfort-in-dreams.html ) I've heard about people who dream about their loved ones quite often, but I am not one of them. I don't think it makes either one of us crazy. It's simply another way grief manifests itself differently from one person to the next. <br /><br />Wishing only peaceful dreams for you in the coming weeks.Split-Second Single Fatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192370092337202063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-51713678651850640672009-09-18T17:03:06.926-04:002009-09-18T17:03:06.926-04:00I've only had a couple of dreams of Austin and...I've only had a couple of dreams of Austin and in them I always knew he was dead but it was so great to see him and be with him for a short time. I wish I could dream of him more. I often go to sleep talking to him, asking him to visit my dreams. <br /><br />Starting to think about the list of things we've lost is so overwhelming. I tried to think of some positive things that we have in our lives now but they all feel heartbreaking because they only exist because Ugh!<br /><br />Off to celebrate my eldest's son b-day tonight by taking some of his friends to a movie. His actual b-day is on Wed. but weekdays are too hectic for friend parties and I want him to have some joy as he becomes a teenager but without his Dad. It's very bittersweet. But he's a great kid and damn it, we're going to celebrate! I'll save my tears for later, when we pass our 6 month marker on Sunday. <br /><br />I hope you have some peace this weekend and some restful sleep.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.com