tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post6112756322997096858..comments2023-10-01T10:27:21.384-04:00Comments on the art of grief: to grieve or not to grieveabandonedsoulshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-41024895092923064852011-11-20T11:05:02.567-05:002011-11-20T11:05:02.567-05:00I absolutely don't believe there is a "ri...I absolutely don't believe there is a "right" way to grieve or a timetable to say you've graduated from grief. How we grieve and how long we grieve depends on our relationship with the person who died, how we've handled other difficult situations, where we are in our lives, and a million other things. Yes, I believe you can laugh and smile and appear grief-free on the outside but still be grieving. We're pretty good at acting the way others expect us to, putting on our happy faces, but what's inside is personal to every individual and nobody NOBODY should be criticized for whether they are griving or have "gotten over it."thelmazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819557846762852247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-10451447633935383732011-11-19T11:19:39.018-05:002011-11-19T11:19:39.018-05:00Yes--grieve the way that fits you best. Everyone ...Yes--grieve the way that fits you best. Everyone is different and it is not up to one person to say how it "should" be done. My grandmother lived a successful life after grandpa died, but at times you would see that far away look on her face and knew she was grieving for the rest of her life. My step-mother had the house rid of my father's belongings within 5 days after he died and never mentioned his name since. Everyone does it differently. No one knows how they would react until or unless it has happened to them.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-84722051125694553492011-11-19T07:41:18.824-05:002011-11-19T07:41:18.824-05:00i fully appreciate all who speak. their truth is ...i fully appreciate all who speak. their truth is their own just as mine is. where i differed was in this: i would never tell someone what they feel is wrong, or that they are expressing themselves using the wrong words. your words and your thoughts, your feelings, are your own and no one has the right to gainsay.<br /><br />peace.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-53501882027154239062011-11-18T09:28:13.026-05:002011-11-18T09:28:13.026-05:00I think where we might have conflict is over the t...I think where we might have conflict is over the term "grief." I also lost my best friend, lover, soul mate and co-parent. I will always miss him, but I know the pain has receded over the past 15 months and no longer takes me to my knees like it did earlier on. I hope this continues; I hope the pain continues to recede and that memories of our time on Earth will bring more smiles than tears- although tears are okay too- and I hope for new love in my life. Love expands to include new life, if we wish.<br />I did find Annie's voice early on and found it helpful to think one day I would no longer feel so devastated. I appreciate all who share their journeys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-82745628756062136712011-11-17T22:00:51.206-05:002011-11-17T22:00:51.206-05:00I'm still grieving. I will always grieve for ...I'm still grieving. I will always grieve for the loss of the love of my life. I don't believe that you can lose your best friend, soul mate, lover, co-parent and biggest cheerleader without grieving their loss for the rest of your life. That's just me and my opinion. We all need to find our own way and judgements sure don't help. Wishing you peace.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-43625757726691664102011-11-16T18:25:11.116-05:002011-11-16T18:25:11.116-05:00mmhmm. If people could add the little "this i...mmhmm. If people could add the little "this is what is true for me" phrase and just not insist that their way is right, I would be less rankled by strong opinion. Well, strong opinion that isn't true for me that is....meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064483599165161879noreply@blogger.com