tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post9122725557446691284..comments2023-10-01T10:27:21.384-04:00Comments on the art of grief: there is no one to callabandonedsoulshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-50315319944465262752009-08-14T16:24:07.907-04:002009-08-14T16:24:07.907-04:00Send me an email, I will send you my number! Call ...Send me an email, I will send you my number! Call me anytime!Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00862870251914305655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6580898742645753422.post-24794569392477424652009-08-12T18:01:37.463-04:002009-08-12T18:01:37.463-04:00You speak of a real and painful dilemma of widowho...You speak of a real and painful dilemma of widowhood - isolation. But even when you are surrounded by others (say, at a job or with family), you often end up feeling alone anyway because no one really understands your feelings. People are also so uncomfortable with grief that they want to change the subject or only talk about cheerful things. They end up not being really there for you even when they are physically present.<br /><br />I have been battling feelings of isolation and being misunderstood for going on six years now. It is only since I've been connected into the blog community that I have felt some kinship and compassion. Our road is a lonely one that is for sure. People may think they can fathom our lives but truly the only ones who can are those who are walking in our shoes along with us. <br /><br />I am so glad you are getting a special container for your husband. That was very important for me when my Mom died and I have a lovely box and an urn - they are not inexpensive, I know. I also got a silver butterfly pendant to wear, which contains some of her ashes. <br /><br />You are getting through the days and nights as best you can. The upcoming wedding is stressful in and of itself - there is so much on your plate. Everyone always thinks that the grieving sleep too much but for me it was the opposite - I couldn't sleep and tossed and turned the first six months. Your tiredness is not helping and I so wish for you a calm, restful night. Sometimes that alone is a lifesaver - to wake up a bit more rested and clearer of mind.<br /><br />You will find a friend in your community and you will make online friends. Right now just concentrate on nurturing yourself as best you can so you can get through the afternoon. You will continue to survive and you will get through this.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.com